Here there is a matter that I wish to make clear. Explaining why there are many wrong stereotypes about Asian ladyboys. Many tend to generalise a lot, judging negatively so quick on issues related to the transgender community. Because media says so all, friends say so all. That’s why some men are acting like they don’t want to get serious with a ladyboy. I can’t blame anyone.
When I first heard of ladyboys, it was on a documentary about Thailand on that subject, and the impression I had it was all about prostitution. And if I look at what the media says about the trans community back in my country, in Europe, the general opinion isn’t that better. I believe this is part of the reason why there are so many, and wrong stereotypes about Asian ladyboys.
And by the end of this topic, I will show you the other face of the coin that the media and people often don’t tell you!
Why they won’t tell? Let me give you a few hints right away… You may be surprised by how much hypocrisy there is around when the topic is about trans women! So many would say: “I? with chich with dicks? never!” or “I’m not gay” and talks like this…
And yet, secretly, also the most macho are craving or already had sex with trans ladies, but SECRETLY! Because, well… you know, some people are afraid of what others may say about them… I was like that in the past, but things have changed for me today…
Anyway, stories like these also happen when…
The first time you meet a ladyboy
Probably like me, the first time you heard about ladyboys, was probably something connected to Thailand and Asian TS in general. Because transgender and trans women from Asia are called, Ladyboys in fact. So, it is likely you may have heard stories about the red light district in Pattaya city, also known as the Ladyboys World Capital. Maybe some of your friends told you about their sexy adventures with some of them. But usually, most has seen first ladyboy porn on the internet.
The wrong stereotypes about Asian ladyboys
That’s what usually makes men, and even women, generalise ladyboys as they are all sex workers and into prostitution. Of course, I can’t deny there is a big slice of them who is into such life, but I can guarantee you, there are many who are total strangers to it. We will get there soon…
Prostitution is common for genetic women as well… But when it comes to ladyboys, people have the tendency to generalise as they are all sex workers, or worse. First of all, the assumption that all ladyboys are prostitutes is a false statement.
If you consider that transsexuals count for 1% of the world population, is not that you can see or meet them everywhere, not as visible as the genetic female population. And when you belong to a minority, the odds and discriminations are always behind the corner.
Is difficult for the trans community to give a voice to their rights, and the most notable issue is finding a decent regular job. That’s why they are always a target for the sex industry (more of that below), and when you have very limited opportunities, it’s easy to get tempted. And in south-east Asia, poverty is still a major problem. Some ladyboys don’t have a choice.
Then, the few times you have chances to know something about the community is likely you only hear negative things. Considering the current stigmas and discriminations that concern the LGBT community, you shall start to figure out your own…
Though, what is most damaging the image of the transgender community and spreading all bad stereotypes, as mentioned earlier, is the porn on the Internet. See it yourself, google some keywords like ” ladyboys, trans, t-girls “. What you will see at top results show porn links and naked pics. And this is for sure what is most influencing people’s minds. The truth is that the reality is different compared to what you have seen on the internet and red-light districts. But things are slowly changing in the new millennium 😉
If the internet has damaged the transgender community, can be also used to fix it! Let’s now take some matters into consideration about the ladyboy community in Asia.
The hardship of being a ladyboy, transsexual, transgender
These wrong stereotypes, of course, are not helping at all ladyboys to be seen different. Even though Asian populations are more LGBT-friendly compared to western societies, not all families are open-minded enough to accept a transgender child. When you happened to be a trans girl in a conservative family, chances are you’ll be rejected by your parents. That’s when life for a ladyboy gets complicated.
Being a ladyboy is expensive. Aside from make-up and clothes, ladyboys have additional expenses compared to genetic women. Female hormones and surgeries are extra expenses that a ladyboy needs to fulfil, and when you are living in the province of a third-world Asian country, you don’t have so many alternatives left to make a living.
To sum it up, if we consider the lack of equal rights, the fact they are not yet enough recognized in the current society, and possible family issues… Ladyboys as well many LGBTQ people do not have a fair opportunity to find a regular job as you have. This is not news, but bear this in mind always.
And to add more to the odds, the media are boosting this problem, spreading bad press about sex tourism, black chronicles and all the bad. Why? Simply because this is what makes “NEWS” and attract interest. For some reasons people pay more attention to bad news on TV and have the tendency to believe everything, they see on the big screen. But we should always have a second point of view, and not taking all for granted.
Sometimes I’m shocked when I hear on TV such misinformed news told by journalists who are completely ignorant about the LGBT world. But this is another story.
But why do people believe that all ladyboys are sex workers?
Simply because ladyboys sex workers/prostitutes are just the most visible side of them. Let’s see the most frequent cases of the wrong stereotypes about Asian ladyboys.
For sure if you go for the first time in Thailand, in Bangkok or even more in Pattaya, what you will see of the ladyboys community is all about sex work. Since travelling around the world became easier and cheap in past years, sex tourism has never been more rampant as today. And guess what? The most famous tourist locations are filled with red-light districts as well. I can’t blame anyone if they get this idea. But today I want to show the other side of the medal, which most people ignore.
Proud ladyboys, the other face of the medal
Many ladyboys are living a decent dignified life, out of red-light districts, involved in different activities. You never have seen them? Just get out from Walking street or Nana Plaza (some of the most famous nightlife districts ) and you will still find ladyboys everywhere. But of course, they are less visible compared to their sisters ladyboy prostitutes. They don’t need to advertise their sexiness to get more customers and try to hook you up. They are just living a simple life as you do; that’s why you don’t notice them. Besides most ladyboys in Thailand are very passable as women, then you probably crossed many around, you just don’t know it. Right because they perfectly look and behave like every ordinary woman.
Somebody who just looks regular doesn’t attract so much attention, right? There you go! See how tricky it is? You probably meet people around that you could never tell they are not what they seem. Ladyboys who live a decent life are just the less visible, as simple as that.
I’m aware of all of this, and that’s why I’m doing this blog. So many are confused by what they see on porn websites, escort services, and approximating TV news. Then people think of Asian ladyboys as sex objects and only for short time.
If you think I’m just trying to convince you of something, I dare you to prove me different… Jokes aside, on my blog, Ladyboy Travel date, I wish to show you what usually you can’t see and find around. Especially showing you how many ladyboys are good people, with a good life, a decent job, and also dreaming true and sincere love as every human being. Just like you…
Asian Ladyboys dreaming love with heart and soul
For this occasion, I want to show you how different can be the reality. More than most compared to the west side of the globe. Tell me, have you ever seen a video like this made by your west country? I bet you don’t!
Beyond a common reality for many Asian ladyboys, this video is also showing that even the transgender community is getting recognised in Asia. Much more than many other western countries. Just take a look at how many prestigious transgender beauty pageants are present in Asian countries.
Even how many high-quality transgender dating services to help out trans-oriented men and transsexuals to meet. Because ladyboys can’t change things all alone. They also need the help of proud and intelligent men to get their rights. Like me and you.
Time are changing, the world is in constant evolution. But many are still living in the past century, but not for sure transgender people. Like never before, they want to stand out and be respected in society as much as every other human. Take a look at this video article about the transsexual Geena Rocero. A famous ladyboy supermodel who achieve her success, and now spreading awareness, education, information.
Need to protect our LGBT comunity
More than that is necessary uplifting the community. For too long has been objectified and used by media to make pure business out of it, damaging the transgender’s community image-
Great post! And so true that most people mistake all ladyboys as hookers. In reality there are plenty of good girls who work in a variety of fields and come from all walks of life.
this is a very good post, yes there are A LOT of in your face ladyboy prostitutes and that really makes people think that they all are
all you need to do is hop on the dating sites and you will find that there are so many more out there that don’t want money, they just want someone to treat them with respect
particularly somewhere like the philippines you can find ladyboys out and about during day to day life that have no interest in sex for money
its just ignorant people that dont know what they are talking about who think they are all pros
ya there are bad ladyboys but there are bad everything
u will find the same percentage of good ladyboys as you will any other gender
there are just as many good ladyboys as good girls and guys, and probably just as many bad ones too from a percentage basis
Billy Hi i met a woman “ladyboy” if you will, and i think that they are very underated. I for one can honestly say i have never met a more loving and deserving person in my life as HER. i support LGBT Thank you!